Everyone has a dream, a passion, and a vision for themselves!….If you think about it, people are beyond inspiring! What is so amazing to think about is the idea that all of us have different passions and interests. That would suggest that we are all capable of achieving a diverse range of success! If you gather a group of people, it is incredible and inspiring to hear the diverse range of talent, vision, and dreams! Anywhere you go, whether it be a restaurant or even your community of friends, if you truly dig deep, you will be met with amazement and surprise!
The part that makes me sad is when people don’t pursue or invest in their personal goals or dreams! You must know how valuable and important your dreams are! Your contribution, efforts, and actions are enormously appreciated and obtain so much worth! Never forget it!
When you aren’t chasing your dreams, you aren’t truly living your life to the fullest! If you find yourself doing the opposite of investing in your vision or striving to achieve your dreams, I guarantee you this is why:
You are fearful:
This feeling is beyond normal! I personally have encountered numerous moments in which I was terrified to take action. I was scared to fail, worried what other people thought of me, and talked myself into thinking I was not good enough!
I was scared to fail because I wanted so bad to prove to my peers that I was not a loser anymore, I was scared to fail because I was so hard on myself, and I was scared to fail because I lost my confidence.
Here is where I was wrong: I was worried about other people’s opinions and thoughts of my own performance. I gave them the satisfaction and the ability to judge my personal achievements! I was so focused on the negative energy, rather than on the loving and supportive family I had. In life, it is so easy to focus on the negative, but I encourage you to surround yourself with those who genuinely care for you, and focus on the positive. Lastly, I wanted to prove I was not a loser anymore. I always heard the saying, “kill them with kindness,” so I wanted to to communicate my strength and worth to those who made me feel like a loser!! #1: I was not a loser! #2: I should have never given them the glory or an ounce of thought! Who cares what such people think! There will always be people who are not satisfied with you, people will always have something to say, and every single person will not love you…it is life! But, you certainly must obtain strength, find a supportive circle, and obtain determination to succeed for YOURSELF..not for others!
Tip 1: Never do things with the intentions and hopes to satisfy others. If you go about life wanting to prove your worth to others, you will never find the kind of success you wish. Approval in others only produces short term happiness, it is not fulfilling! When working for others or the approval of someone else, you are digging yourself a hole! You will always limit yourself and never obtain true satisfaction because when you are working to please others, there is no limit or consistent approval!!
You are embarrassed:
I am pretty sure we all have experienced embarrassment….I know I have! It is okay to feel this way; we are human! However, it is not okay to let other people’s input make you feel embarrassed of your goals! Personally, I limited myself and compromised my goals because I was worried how others would see it, I let other people’s belittling comments get in my head, and I LET OTHER PEOPLE STEER THE WHEEL! Crazy!
Here is where I was wrong: I let external forces determine my internal emotion, my mentality, and my attitude! In life, we must be willing to ignore the nasty comments, or else we will never make progress! Channel negative comments into energy! Use it to motivate yourself, rather than slow yourself down! Also, you must understand that other people have no right to determine your success or capabilities; therefore, never grant hem control over your actions or morale!
Tip 2: Never let other people steer the wheel! You must set the tone and keep your eyes on the target! The moment you allow other people’s thoughts and opinions through the door will be the moment you mentally decline. I encourage you to make a plan for yourself and remind yourself each day of your amazing capabilities! I encourage you to build your confidence and practice self-love so that when you meet external challenges, you are equipped and untouchable!
You doubt yourself:
Never doubt your capabilities! You are worthy of so much, and I guarantee the moment you grant yourself the credit and support you deserve, you will obtain so much validation and courage! Taking action and putting yourself out there takes guts and so much boldness; therefore, it starts within! I encourage you to remind yourself of your strength and capability each day and work on your confidence…this does not happen overnight. Personally, I was very hard on myself and occasionally doubted my abilities. I always asked myself if I was enough or if what I was doing could have been done better. I only focused on the negative and worried about every possible thing!
Here is where I was wrong: I was so tough on myself, that it became limiting! I did not give myself the positive energy I needed to function. I worried so much about every possible scenario (for example, if my blog would be un-relatable, terrible quality, not enjoyable, etc.). In addition, I always told myself I could have done better or that something was missing! I never allowed myself room for ‘trial and error.’ I only accepted ‘trial and perfect.’ That was it!
Tip 3: Never stand in the way of your success and never limit yourself! Grant yourself room and freedom to explore…and if you make a mistake, learn from it! Do not beat yourself down before giving yourself a chance! When you are taking action or chasing your dreams, NEVER worry about the millions of scenarios that could take place, only ponder and consider the positive outcomes! Lastly, go for it and never give up!
You can’t find the time:
Time is valuable, and trust me; I always complain there aren’t enough hours in a day! However, I can’t stress how essential time is to achieve your goals! I wanted to do so much; however, my schedule did not allow me to pursue specific goals! Also, I was strict about performing with the best quality or not performing at all. There was no compromise! Therefore, it was difficult for me to take action, since I did not have the time to perfect what I wanted to do!
Tip 4: If you genuinely are passionate about doing something, you will find the time! People need to reflect upon their workload and discern whether or not what they are doing brings them happiness/is worth it. Remove the small things that consume your time! Make room for yourself to invest in your goals! I also encourage you to create a plan and strengthen your organization skills. Once I cleared my plate from a couple of things, I immediately developed an organized plan. You will become extremely productive if you utilize organization skills and strategy!
Keep in mind: Things don’t happen overnight. Time is key! I encourage you to find the time and invest your energy into achieving your dreams!
Your dreams are worth it, and they are never too big or too small! Never let others, and most importantly, your self stand in your way! There should be nothing between you and your dream! Go for it!
Keep in mind: If we stopped hiding our light, neglecting our dreams, or even ignoring our goals, our world would be so much more vibrant and concentrated with talent and ambition! Let’s stop the cycle of shying away from your goals, and let’s set the trend of CHASING IT!
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