Everyone experiences unique and distinct stages of life; we are all in different phases. However, no specific stage, moment, or experience is less valuable than the other or than someone else’s. In other words, your chapter is just as important as someone else’s chapter, and every phase you experience is equally as valuable as the others. Each phase plays a role in your final destination and brings forth experience, lessons, and improvements: they essentially mold and refine you.
Personally, I feel like I am about to start a new chapter in my life. Although it may be smaller than previous chapters, I consider embarking on my senior year in high school as a “mini-chapter.” I value this “mini-chapter” as much as others because senior year brings forth a lot of change, learning, and responsibilities.
In life, we experience opportunities in which we must rise, challenge, and raise the bar. Also, we will be forced to adapt or assimilate. Every chapter obtains a force of change or unfamiliarity.
As I wrap my head around this new chapter of mine, I am met with multiple feelings and emotions. I am happy to finally be a leader on campus and I look forward to mentoring underclassmen. Also, I feel energized and determined to commence my last year in high school. Although I want to work hard, enjoy each moment, experience unity within my grade, and invest in the campus culture at my school, I obtain a few stressful and anxious thoughts. I am worried about friendships, academics, extracurriculars, college decisions, standardized testing, new environments, big decisions, and change! The precedent factors apply tremendous stress in my life because they all deal with the unknown and are out of my control. Life in the “real world,” outside of high school, works the same way..
In other words, when a door closes, another one opens. In those moments, we are met with happiness and determination to embark on a new journey; however, we are met with a factor of stress, anxiety, hesitance, or worry. In life, we all experience moments like these: moments when we are confused or worried about commencing a new chapter, moments when we doubt our capabilities or even moments in which we are hesitant to turn the page and explore new territories. Whatever it may be and however worried or anxious you may be, I encourage you to take the leap, believe in yourself, and relax. It is key you do not let the numerous questions of doubt or anxiety overwhelm you and persuade your actions. Sometimes in life, the hardest decisions are the best decisions. The more you challenge, assimilate, or raise the bar, the more you improve, advance, and exceed! Do not let the fear of the unknown or the intimidation of numerous uncertainties overwhelm you, scare you, or persuade you. Always challenge yourself.
Personally, a few months ago, the thought of senior year was a nightmare. Not because I was unorganized, immature, or under-prepared, but because I had numerous questions and ZERO answers: Which college will I end up at? Will my dream college accept me? Will my SAT scores meet preferred standards? Will I be a good student body president? Will I have a friend group? Will I be able to balance sports, AP Classes, and over 20 extracurriculars? Is my resume good enough? What state will be my next home? How fast will the year go by? How tough will it be to leave my home and my family? Will I impact my school community and classmates the way I hope so? Of course, the list goes on…
In other words, I am about to approach a small stage in which I learn a lot about myself, mentally grow, and assimilate to much change! If I approach this next chapter with the mindset of fear and anxiety, these numerous and endless questions and uncertainties will weigh me down, limit me, overwhelm me, and even spoil the experience. Rather than allow fear and uncertainty to overwhelm me, I choose to remind myself to TRUST the process. I choose to handle one thing at a time, and I choose to work my hardest and believe in myself. I recently learned the art of reflection, meditation, patience, and peace. As a result of those essential qualities, I am able to exert my very best performance and believe in the final destination.
I have numerous questions, but the action of sitting back, stressing, and even crying will not advance or improve the situation. In fact, it is incredibly unhealthy and limiting. It is key to train yourself to trust that everything happens for a reason and believe in what comes your way.
Although this chapter is a tiny chapter in the book of life, I believe I obtained a lot of wisdom, growth, and experience. Also, I believe the mentality that I adopted from this chapter are essential qualities I will utilize as I grow up and experience the “real world.”
In conclusion, I feel as though numerous people shy from exploring/commencing new opportunities or chapters. I say go for it, believe in yourself, and trust the process, and be content with the results and outcome. Secondly, I feel like many people downplay their experiences because they think their life stage is not as complex, dynamic, or serious as others. I say, every experience obtains essential messages, lessons, and growth; every quality you obtain is equally as important and essential to your future self and personal development. Therefore, never feel like embarking on a small journey like starting your senior year or graduating high school is less important than a job offer, starting a company, etc. While they may not be as huge and sophisticated as other challenges and experiences, the qualities and lessons you obtain are priceless. Do not feel less deserving or less important!
The truth is: sometimes people don’t like to watch you succeed, so they try to tear you down. The truth is: sometimes people get…
Everyone has a dream, a passion, and a vision for themselves!….If you think about it, people are beyond inspiring! What is so amazing to think about is the idea that all of us have different passions and interests. That would suggest that we are all capable of achieving a diverse range of success! If you gather a group of people, it is incredible and inspiring to hear the diverse range of talent, vision, and dreams! Anywhere you go, whether it be a restaurant or even your community of friends, if you truly dig deep, you will be met with amazement and surprise!
The part that makes me sad is when people don’t pursue or invest in their personal goals or dreams! You must know how valuable and important your dreams are! Your contribution, efforts, and actions are enormously appreciated and obtain so much worth! Never forget it!
When you aren’t chasing your dreams, you aren’t truly living your life to the fullest! If you find yourself doing the opposite of investing in your vision or striving to achieve your dreams, I guarantee you this is why:
You are fearful:
This feeling is beyond normal! I personally have encountered numerous moments in which I was terrified to take action. I was scared to fail, worried what other people thought of me, and talked myself into thinking I was not good enough!
I was scared to fail because I wanted so bad to prove to my peers that I was not a loser anymore, I was scared to fail because I was so hard on myself, and I was scared to fail because I lost my confidence.
Here is where I was wrong: I was worried about other people’s opinions and thoughts of my own performance. I gave them the satisfaction and the ability to judge my personal achievements! I was so focused on the negative energy, rather than on the loving and supportive family I had. In life, it is so easy to focus on the negative, but I encourage you to surround yourself with those who genuinely care for you, and focus on the positive. Lastly, I wanted to prove I was not a loser anymore. I always heard the saying, “kill them with kindness,” so I wanted to to communicate my strength and worth to those who made me feel like a loser!! #1: I was not a loser! #2: I should have never given them the glory or an ounce of thought! Who cares what such people think! There will always be people who are not satisfied with you, people will always have something to say, and every single person will not love you…it is life! But, you certainly must obtain strength, find a supportive circle, and obtain determination to succeed for YOURSELF..not for others!
Tip 1: Never do things with the intentions and hopes to satisfy others. If you go about life wanting to prove your worth to others, you will never find the kind of success you wish. Approval in others only produces short term happiness, it is not fulfilling! When working for others or the approval of someone else, you are digging yourself a hole! You will always limit yourself and never obtain true satisfaction because when you are working to please others, there is no limit or consistent approval!!
You are embarrassed:
I am pretty sure we all have experienced embarrassment….I know I have! It is okay to feel this way; we are human! However, it is not okay to let other people’s input make you feel embarrassed of your goals! Personally, I limited myself and compromised my goals because I was worried how others would see it, I let other people’s belittling comments get in my head, and I LET OTHER PEOPLE STEER THE WHEEL! Crazy!
Here is where I was wrong: I let external forces determine my internal emotion, my mentality, and my attitude! In life, we must be willing to ignore the nasty comments, or else we will never make progress! Channel negative comments into energy! Use it to motivate yourself, rather than slow yourself down! Also, you must understand that other people have no right to determine your success or capabilities; therefore, never grant hem control over your actions or morale!
Tip 2: Never let other people steer the wheel! You must set the tone and keep your eyes on the target! The moment you allow other people’s thoughts and opinions through the door will be the moment you mentally decline. I encourage you to make a plan for yourself and remind yourself each day of your amazing capabilities! I encourage you to build your confidence and practice self-love so that when you meet external challenges, you are equipped and untouchable!
You doubt yourself:
Never doubt your capabilities! You are worthy of so much, and I guarantee the moment you grant yourself the credit and support you deserve, you will obtain so much validation and courage! Taking action and putting yourself out there takes guts and so much boldness; therefore, it starts within! I encourage you to remind yourself of your strength and capability each day and work on your confidence…this does not happen overnight. Personally, I was very hard on myself and occasionally doubted my abilities. I always asked myself if I was enough or if what I was doing could have been done better. I only focused on the negative and worried about every possible thing!
Here is where I was wrong: I was so tough on myself, that it became limiting! I did not give myself the positive energy I needed to function. I worried so much about every possible scenario (for example, if my blog would be un-relatable, terrible quality, not enjoyable, etc.). In addition, I always told myself I could have done better or that something was missing! I never allowed myself room for ‘trial and error.’ I only accepted ‘trial and perfect.’ That was it!
Tip 3: Never stand in the way of your success and never limit yourself! Grant yourself room and freedom to explore…and if you make a mistake, learn from it! Do not beat yourself down before giving yourself a chance! When you are taking action or chasing your dreams, NEVER worry about the millions of scenarios that could take place, only ponder and consider the positive outcomes! Lastly, go for it and never give up!
You can’t find the time:
Time is valuable, and trust me; I always complain there aren’t enough hours in a day! However, I can’t stress how essential time is to achieve your goals! I wanted to do so much; however, my schedule did not allow me to pursue specific goals! Also, I was strict about performing with the best quality or not performing at all. There was no compromise! Therefore, it was difficult for me to take action, since I did not have the time to perfect what I wanted to do!
Tip 4: If you genuinely are passionate about doing something, you will find the time! People need to reflect upon their workload and discern whether or not what they are doing brings them happiness/is worth it. Remove the small things that consume your time! Make room for yourself to invest in your goals! I also encourage you to create a plan and strengthen your organization skills. Once I cleared my plate from a couple of things, I immediately developed an organized plan. You will become extremely productive if you utilize organization skills and strategy!
Keep in mind: Things don’t happen overnight. Time is key! I encourage you to find the time and invest your energy into achieving your dreams!
Your dreams are worth it, and they are never too big or too small! Never let others, and most importantly, your self stand in your way! There should be nothing between you and your dream! Go for it!
Keep in mind: If we stopped hiding our light, neglecting our dreams, or even ignoring our goals, our world would be so much more vibrant and concentrated with talent and ambition! Let’s stop the cycle of shying away from your goals, and let’s set the trend of CHASING IT!
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Has anyone felt embarrassed of their bodies or uncomfortable in their own skin?
Confession time: That was ME!!
I had the largest thighs, and no matter how hard I tried to get rid of them, they stayed large and muscular for everyone to see and judge. I tried Soulcycle, fitness, running, dieting, and more! I was desperate to lean and slim my legs and at times I would cry in my room and hide from the world in hopes of not being seen.
People labeled me as fat, and my peers at school hollered things like, “Here comes big thighs,” and I was even referred to as “drumstick legs.”
I wanted so bad to have toothpick legs and I was willing to do anything.
There were days I missed birthday parties, swim gatherings, and special events strictly for the purposes of trying to hide my body and my insecurities. I never noticed my “flaws” until people had mentioned them, and once they did, I became fixated on them.
Never limit yourself or hide your face from the world in hopes of masking your body or your insecurities. At the end of the day, EVERYONE has a flaw, and why not embrace it and start a trend? Even supermodels have insecurities, yet they pose on magazines and embrace their bodies and their looks. I have grown to learn how to love myself and realize that my thighs are different and beautiful!
I have become a strong believer in originality, and why not start the trend?
Who gets to declare or even claim what is beautiful and what is not?
No one has the right to claim what beauty is, the only person who can label beauty is yourself. If you show that you are grateful and proud of your body, you will become less of a target and more of an inspiration to others seeking assurance and confidence!
After I started to embrace my thighs and my originality, I noticed that many people around me began to “work” their thighs, rather than feel ashamed and cover them!
At the end of the day, you set the tone, and you start the trends!
Sometimes you have to be the one willing to get out there and create style by owning and working your insecurities.
Imagine if more people embraced their flaws, would they even be flaws anymore??
Flaws are things we give negative attention to, but if we begin showing positive attention to it, I would say it would be less of a flaw and more of an asset!
In my backyard Hello everyone, I want to talk about something that has been on my mind for quite some time now… Our nation…
Big Girl In a Small World is my pride and joy! I created this blog because I am incredibly excited to spread girl power, motivation, and positivity!
Growing up, I faced exclusion and bullying, and as a result, I was left scarred and full of pain… but rather than keep my mouth shut, I want to build unity, build each other up, and most of all, spread love to those who seek it! So….who’s in? It only take a handful of people to make a difference!
Watch this video below to learn more! Hop on this journey with me!